S P A C E
Soul Saving Self-care Strategy
Today, I want to touch on a subject that is really close to my heart, self-care. When it rains, it’s a torrential downpour in the music business. Actually, it’s more like a tiny match that starts a forest fire. Either way you want to imagine it, you can easily go from zero to panic in 60 seconds.
Tuesday morning started fairly innocent. I was working my day job and working on some new merch designs and then THE email came. Our song got placed on a Network Television show and it was airing that NIGHT! I quickly whipped up a promotional image and video to share on social media. Got all our assets sent to PR who was so kind as to do a last minute email blast to their media people. Then we went into a frenzy of making sure it was on Shazam, double checking it was registered correctly for royalties, and handled all the other last minute back and forth with our legal team to make sure we were ready. All this while working my day job simultaneously.
Needless to say, it was a rush and I was riddled with anxiety.
Cut to that night, we sat in anticipation while we watched the show. We sat, and we sat, waited and waited. Our song wasn’t until the very last scene! Talk about being on pins and needles. The placement was perfect. All our hard work had paid off for about 30 seconds of air time.
Then it hit me, the next day my son was going in for surgery. Two days in a row with immense anxiety. I knew I needed to regroup and find some self-care space or I would be no good for my team or my family.
We all experience times of high anxiety. It can be a rush, but it always catches up to you. That is why self-care is so important. I find that I have a big tendency to work until my body gives out and gets sick. In those moments, I wish I had practiced a little self-care. Depression and anxiety are real issues and I know we as musicians experience these on a deeper level.
When I sat down to really dive into what self-care meant to me, I kept hearing the word SPACE. Space to regroup. Space to be alone. Space to fill the air up with positive energy rather than frantic.
S – Silence
P – Prioritize
A – Acknowledgement
C – Communication
E – Exercise
When I’m feeling anxious, being alone with my thoughts is the quickest way for me to calm down. Daily silence or meditation is key to self-care.
The second thing I do is I prioritize. I make a list of the items that are truly time sensitive and I hold or delegate the rest. I remind myself that I do not have to do it all. I call upon my team and my family.
Next, I take a moment to express my gratitude and acknowledge all the positive things in my life and career. I swear, just showing gratitude and holding space for the good things instantly makes me feel more in control.
What good is self-care if you don’t communicate your needs to the people close to you. If you are truly practicing self-care you will let people know what you need. Send them a quick message and say, “Taking a personal day today.” They don’t know that the constant notifications might be sending you over the edge. But if you actively communicate and show people how they can help you, they will.
Lastly, the fastest way to get out of your head is to get into your body. Do some yoga, jump on a mini-trampoline, go for a run, whatever works for your body. Just move.
I urge you to get some SPACE in your life, especially during those rain storms and forest fires.
How do you save your soul and practice self-care?